Wednesday, April 09, 2008

Our Preciousss

Kavya is just so proud to be a big sister and is so wonderful at it. She dotes on Karthik and is great with him. The li'l one is a monster who has his eyes on anything Kavya has and will do anything to get it away from her but she has a lot of patience with him(sometimes even more than us!). Sure they have a few fights and sometimes she forgets that he is a baby and gets frustrated when he doesn't understand her or listen to her but in general, she loves to play with him, teach him things and take care of him.

A couple of months ago, at a fund-raising Pizza night for the school, Kavya's teacher, who was sitting at a different table, sought us out to talk to us about her. She brought up a specific incident when the students in her class were asked to write about the happiest day in their lives. Most students, she said, wrote about the day they went to Disneyland, the day they got their Playstation, their birthday, etc. But Kavya wrote that it was the day Karthik was born and went on to write rather vividly about seeing him in the hospital, bringing him home, putting him in his crib, etc. The teacher herself was visibly touched and said "she really is a precious child". Kavya is a voracious reader, is ahead of her grade level in writing, got 'Outstanding' in most of the categories, especially in Language Arts, in her report card and is second in her class in Spelling. But that night, when the teacher told us that, we were just a wee bit more proud of her than usual.

I have a younger brother and had a lot of fun playing with him and bossing him around while growing up. But seeing Kavya dote on Karthik makes me wish I'd had an older sister too :)


At 11:07 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Karthik is the luckiest brother in the world.

I was always wanted a elder/younger sister. But too bad...I am the eldest son in the family.

Cute pics..

At 12:57 AM, Blogger Orange Fronkey said...

Oh I don't know Balaji... Older girls think their young bro's are a pain... My niece thinks her lil bro is a pain... to an extent I'll have to agree to that cuz I see what a butt he can be.

I'm the youngest in the fam... I think the best sibling relationship is the bond between a older bro and younger sister :)


It's wonderful to hear about Kavya! Yes you should be very much proud of her.. Adorable pics!

At 2:04 AM, Blogger D.E.V said...

i feel very touched when i hear bout how kavya dotes over his brother. I'm the onli child in my family and there is never been a day where i wish had siblings whom can care bout. :(

At 2:43 AM, Blogger Ramya said...

kavya n karthik r so cute.. uppu suthi podunga.. i have 6 month old sis in law's 4 yr old daughter,madhu s just like ur kavya..she dotes on my son like anything.. does everything for him.. i was an elder sister n have a younger brother 10 yrs younger to me.. I took care of him like my mother only.. so parenting was not that new when i had my child..

At 4:28 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

She said that the day her brother was born was the happiest dy of her life??!!!

Awwww....that is so cute.

At 6:14 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

After a long time, a positive post on your daughter :)

At 6:41 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

very very touching...its really nice to see an elder sister behave that way...having been an only child, I was the center of everyone's attention for a long time, esp. for my Mom's parents, I was the only grandchild when i was growing up...but I have a close knit group of friends who I consider my brothers and sisters and sometimes feel bad that I didnt know them earlier...the fact that I am not related to them by blood is not a big deal though...enaku kooda porakkaadha "siblings" avange...

At 7:03 AM, Blogger giri subramanian said...

That was really amazing Balaji. For someone so young to write the happiest day of her lif is her brothers birth is really special. As her teacher rightly put it she is indeed a precious child.

At 7:50 AM, Blogger Silicon Valley Blogzine said...

This post was like a breath of fresh air. Very nice.

At 8:38 AM, Blogger Raju said...

That is really so cutely lovely. I remember your concern just before Karthik was born, about how she would react to someone who will probably get more attention than her. I think you parents deserve the credits for inculcating the thought in her that she is his elder sister and has to take care of him. I also remember you mentioning her motherly instinct when he was a toddler.

I wasnt that way when my bro was born. I remember being in not so welcoming mood (the reason being I was expecting a sister) and telling my parents to return the kid to the hospital, since he was (always) crying..

At 9:19 AM, Blogger Kay said...


So refreshing to hear that. I have a 3 yr old daughter and 1 yr old twin boys. My daughter is still expecting someone to take away the twins LOL... I hope she changes her mind and starts playing with them. She was only 2 when they were born - still a kuzhanthi herself. After reading about Kavya, I'm hoping that their relationship changes too.

BTW, Karthik looks exactly like your wife.. A mini replica in fact..


At 9:32 AM, Blogger Loga said...

Simply sweet :-) Your daughter is really precious :-)

At 10:06 AM, Blogger Balaji said...

anon, "I was always wanted a elder/younger sister. But too bad...I am the eldest son in the family." - me too :)

merino, there r times when kavya thinks that too. wonder how it'll change as they grow up :)

skanda, can understand ur longing.

ramya, welcome. i guess ur maternal instincts kicked in pretty early :) and ur son's lucky to have the cousin sis. i have 2 older cousin sisters too and it was a lot of fun since we were pretty much a joint family :)

utbtkids, yep :)

anon, u mean "After a long time, a post on your daughter" right? cos i don't think i've ever done a -ve post on her :)

ram, tamil cinema range-la sollite ! but know exactly what u mean :)

giri, thanx. as u can imagine, we were absolutely thrilled when we heard the teacher :)

blogzine, thanx :)

raju, really touched that u remembered all those posts about them. we did do a few things to make sure she started liking her baby brother from b4 he was born but a lot of it is just kavya. she's just a gem :)

LOL at ur request to ur parents to take ur brother back. wonder how they reacted :)

kay, i'm sure the maternal instincts will kick in real soon. but considering how karthik is with kavya, i can imagine ur daughter's plight since she has to deal with 2 li'l brothers!

anu's gonna be thrilled to read that :)

loga, thanx :)

At 11:08 AM, Blogger ரவிஷா said...

I guess it has to do with the age gap. With a gap of say 4-6 years the older sister becomes almost like a mom to her younger brother with just two of them as the siblings.

My wife has a younger brother who is about five years younger than her. She remembers him as a kid even now and treats him like her kid (he is 32 now)! Like your daugher, my wife still remembers her brother as a baby, kid going to school, taking care of him while going to/coming back from school etc. She would consider him as the best that happened in her life (before the marriage of course :-)!

Good luck to you and your family!

At 12:00 PM, Blogger Orange Fronkey said...

Balaji, I really do hope that her love for her lil bro never changes! Hopefully she doesn't write anything like "buy shoes for $5 and get my little brother for free" like my niece writes in her monthly journal for school.. LOL

At 12:40 PM, Blogger mitr_bayarea said...


Kavya really needs to be complimented for being a terrific sister. You folks must have felt very proud to hear her teacher's good words.

At 2:31 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

wow that's so sweet!

At 9:23 PM, Blogger Naren's said...

naam iruvar namakku oruvar nu government campaign paarkum pothu yellam kovam varum...ellaarum oru kuzhnathaya mattum pethukita approm eppdi thaaan annan ,thangachi,thambhi paasam yellam's a bliss irreplaceable..therz no alternative to such bliss...marakkaam kuzhanthaihalukku suthi cute they are....

At 4:04 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very sweet of Kavya. -ss

At 5:14 AM, Blogger narayanan said...

Off topic: BB have you seen Bucket List ?

At 10:39 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

For a kid at this age to actually note that her younger brothers' new arrival spells a new exciting beginning instead of growing insecurities and jealousy speaks volume of how well she has been brought up.

Kudos to both your wife and yourself for raising such lovely, smart and not to mention adorable kids! (george Busssshhhh)


At 12:22 PM, Blogger Shobana said...

How cute! BTW, (sorry to ask this here) have u reviewed the movie Kannum Kannum?

At 7:05 PM, Blogger Balaji said...

ravi, yeah kavya's about 3 1/2 yrs older than karthik. so that age diff probably has a lot to do with it.

loved the "before the marriage" comment :)

merino, i've seen some of those tshirts too. hope kavya never asks for one :)

mitr/sreela, thanx :)

naren, nicely said. the sibling relationship is really special and a single child really misses out on it :)

ss, thanx :)

narayanan, no. plan to c it on dvd though :)

megan, thanx for the nice words. as i said b4, kavya deserves most of the credit but i think we've done something right :)

george busssssssss has become karthik's trademark now :)

shobana, welcome and thanx :)

no. so many reviews to write and so li'l time. did see it though and lemme just say i liked it a lot less than all those other reviews i read :)

At 9:55 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I could've sworn I posted... I guess not.

I'm really glad that you as parents have the good sense to appreciate her preciousness instead of getting wrapped up in her scholastic achievements. That speaks volumes of your parenting skills. Looking forward to seeing them grow up. Khartik never ceases to have that mischievous twinkle in his eye.* I wonder where he gets it from!* Lol.

At 6:08 AM, Blogger Me too said...

oh, that sure would've been an incredibly proud moment! My older one dotes on her baby sister and I wonder if it has to do with the big sister preparations here(books, tv shows, teachers etc.) for I hardly remember my brother's baby days!


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